She is not complaining even though it looks like she is.

Men and women have totally different ways of thinking and this is fact. This variation on their thoughts clearly shows on their figure of speech. It is almost like both men and women went to different schools in childhood and both consulted different books. This is the only reason why they misunderstood each other so often and many romantic moments ended up in cold wars.

If men were able to understand the hidden meaning behind her sentences then the amount of misunderstandings will decrease and he will start listening to her and give more importance to her thoughts. He needs to understand that with a frustrated brain anyone can go on to say things, which she actually doesn’t mean. Males prefer expressing their feelings to the point but females have the habit of expecting him to understand whatever she means even though she might not say it directly.

If she complains that she isn’t getting enough romance then he thinks she wants to say that he isn’t romantic. This looks to him like pointing the finger on him. He gets confused that why is she complaining even though they had been living a romantic life. Here the real meaning of more romance was romance at that particular instant of time. It was her way of expressing her feelings and by giving it the face of a complaint he totally destroyed the moment.

Similarly some day she might complain that they are dating less these days even though they went out on a date the last week itself. Again, here she wasn’t complaining but wanted to express that she wants to go out with him at that very moment itself.

These two examples make it clear that how literally translating her sentences could easily confuse a man because for him speech is the means of conveying fact and information.

One more very general and confusing sentence is when she says “You don’t listen to me.” He might at times quickly repeat what she had said just to show that he was listening but she meant something else. She wanted him to know that he wasn’t able to understand the hidden meaning of her sentences. By saying “I am not being heard” she means she is not being understood, and wants a confirmation from him that he is interested in whatever she is saying.

This concludes that men need to be more thoughtful when it comes to understanding her. They need to understand that she isn’t complaining even though it looks like she is.