1. Without quality time, your relationship will not survive. Carve out at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when you the two of you spend time exclusively together.
2. A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides.
3. Keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need him, but don’t cling, as that can make your partner feel trapped.
4. Encourage him to listen to you, by showing appreciation when he does. By the same token, show interest when he talks to you. Be aware that most men aren’t mentally programmed for conversation in the way women are. They need more silence and internal time.
5. Make him appreciate you. Don’t wait for a spontaneous compliment, but say something good about yourself and ask for his agreement.
6. Teach him, preferably early in your relationship, exactly how to give you a fail-safe orgasm because it’s unlikely he’ll find out alone. If you don’t yet know yourself, find out.
7. Learn to do the one thing that is most likely to restore good feeling in your relationship — giving your partner a genuine, loving and approving smile.
8. Often those subtle quirks that first attracted you to your partner can, with time, turn around and become toe-scratching annoying habits. Learn to love him, warts and all.
9. Hidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it. Remember that while men are wary of emotional conversations, they love to find solutions. Express your problem and then ask him to help you find the answer.
10. Learn that punishing your partner won’t work. It may make you feel better to give him a hard time, but it will actually make him dig his heels in more. A better tactic is to reward the things you like and ignore what you don’t like. Know when to leave.
If your life aims are incompatible, there are heavy drugs or violence around, or if there is consistently more pain than pleasure, then walk before the relationship destroys u
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Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Things To Be Avoided in Relationship
We learn best by making mistakes, but too many mistakes can have negative effects on your relationship. Here are some tips to avoid mistakes:
1. Don't wait, express your love right now!
2. Don't worry, be happy
3. Don't gloat when you are right
4. Don't sulk when you don't get your way
5. Don't make the same mistake twice
6. Don't spend your prime time watching TV
7. Don't interrupt when she/he is talking
8. Don't take one another for granted
9. Don't hold grudges
10. Don't let your mind wander during conversations
11. Don't wait for your partner to read your mind
12. Don't be judgmental
13. Don't leave lovemaking until just before sleeping
14. Don't make love the same way every time
15. Don't be afraid to share your feelings
16. Don't try to change your partner
1. Don't wait, express your love right now!
2. Don't worry, be happy
3. Don't gloat when you are right
4. Don't sulk when you don't get your way
5. Don't make the same mistake twice
6. Don't spend your prime time watching TV
7. Don't interrupt when she/he is talking
8. Don't take one another for granted
9. Don't hold grudges
10. Don't let your mind wander during conversations
11. Don't wait for your partner to read your mind
12. Don't be judgmental
13. Don't leave lovemaking until just before sleeping
14. Don't make love the same way every time
15. Don't be afraid to share your feelings
16. Don't try to change your partner
How To Attract A Girl
So, You like to get a girl, who is your class mate, colleague, girl at next door, a party chick or some one? You are a shy guy to start with girls? Keep this in your mind always "Girls aren't aliens to fear about". Kick your foolish shyness and fear at first.
Be a Man:
Do not degrade yourself with your inferior things. Look at the couples you see at beach, park & every where else.. If he can get a girl then why not you?
First Meet/Date/Conversation?
Buddy, You need to make her get relaxed. So, Do not stand in front of her like an escaped prisoner with rolling eyes. First relax yourself and understand the environment then start, Just say good day wishes, smile and move forward the conversation with interesting topics. There is a magic lie which always attracts a girl. Tell her that "You looks really nice. This dress perfectly suits you" end this line with a nice smile. This is your first trap.
What is your personality?
Do you able to describe about yourself with couple of lines? Do not try to makeup some fake characters into your personality. Just "Be Yourself"
Are you a Jerk or Nice guy?
Most of the girls feel nice guys are such boring personalities. Don't be a 100% funny guy always. It will create a joker impression about you instead of attractiveness.
Your conversations with a girl:
when a girl talk about something she like, an incident, a sad moment, her last summer trip, her pets or anything else, You need to follow "Shut Up and Listen" rule. Stop commenting, Stop giving suggestions, Stop giving advices, Stop arguments when she talk. Just shut up your bad mouth and listen what she says. She don't need a world's greatest idea from you when she talk something emotional. All she need is a caring person who respects what she is saying.
Be REAL:
Help an old lady cross the street. Be a role model for kids to look up to. Be kind to animals. Being considerate to others, no matter the age, gender, or species, is sure to make any girl's heart melt.
Be Talkative:
Girls like such an interesting guys who talk funny, naughty (sometimes), caring & polite. Just be social.
Know more about her:
You have to know about her most happiest/sad moments. Close friends, Family, Co-Workers, Her favorite food, her hobbies. Do not ask all of these to her like a survey guy. Just know it in different moments.
Your Thoughts:
If she say "Eminem is the only one who can rap very well. all others are pure crap!" Don't say "yes yes.. emimen is BEST.. I like him". Just say what you think really in polite way, This would be better, "Yes Eminem is nice.. But 50cent & Dr.Dre too perform nice, You must listen <50-c> look how great all are they.. these three guys rap nice.".
How to be an interested guy?
If she like something, then ask about her thoughts & comments about it. Let her to talk much about her favorite things. Do not let it to be a questioner session.
Learn to play at least a single musical instrument,
Learn to dance,
Have some interesting hobbies like boat riding, rock climbing,
Do not Hurt or Kid her friends:
Do not try lame jokes to kid her friends. As you are a new person to her, You need to be friendly to all of her friends too.
TRUST Yourself
First of all trust yourself, You can do it even millions of successful guys do. You lose nothing if she denies you. Just have a try learn the lesson "How to attract".
Be a Man:
Do not degrade yourself with your inferior things. Look at the couples you see at beach, park & every where else.. If he can get a girl then why not you?
First Meet/Date/Conversation?
Buddy, You need to make her get relaxed. So, Do not stand in front of her like an escaped prisoner with rolling eyes. First relax yourself and understand the environment then start, Just say good day wishes, smile and move forward the conversation with interesting topics. There is a magic lie which always attracts a girl. Tell her that "You looks really nice. This dress perfectly suits you" end this line with a nice smile. This is your first trap.
What is your personality?
Do you able to describe about yourself with couple of lines? Do not try to makeup some fake characters into your personality. Just "Be Yourself"
Are you a Jerk or Nice guy?
Most of the girls feel nice guys are such boring personalities. Don't be a 100% funny guy always. It will create a joker impression about you instead of attractiveness.
Your conversations with a girl:
when a girl talk about something she like, an incident, a sad moment, her last summer trip, her pets or anything else, You need to follow "Shut Up and Listen" rule. Stop commenting, Stop giving suggestions, Stop giving advices, Stop arguments when she talk. Just shut up your bad mouth and listen what she says. She don't need a world's greatest idea from you when she talk something emotional. All she need is a caring person who respects what she is saying.
Be REAL:
Help an old lady cross the street. Be a role model for kids to look up to. Be kind to animals. Being considerate to others, no matter the age, gender, or species, is sure to make any girl's heart melt.
Be Talkative:
Girls like such an interesting guys who talk funny, naughty (sometimes), caring & polite. Just be social.
Know more about her:
You have to know about her most happiest/sad moments. Close friends, Family, Co-Workers, Her favorite food, her hobbies. Do not ask all of these to her like a survey guy. Just know it in different moments.
Your Thoughts:
If she say "Eminem is the only one who can rap very well. all others are pure crap!" Don't say "yes yes.. emimen is BEST.. I like him". Just say what you think really in polite way, This would be better, "Yes Eminem is nice.. But 50cent & Dr.Dre too perform nice, You must listen <50-c>
How to be an interested guy?
If she like something, then ask about her thoughts & comments about it. Let her to talk much about her favorite things. Do not let it to be a questioner session.
Learn to play at least a single musical instrument,
Learn to dance,
Have some interesting hobbies like boat riding, rock climbing,
Do not Hurt or Kid her friends:
Do not try lame jokes to kid her friends. As you are a new person to her, You need to be friendly to all of her friends too.
TRUST Yourself
First of all trust yourself, You can do it even millions of successful guys do. You lose nothing if she denies you. Just have a try learn the lesson "How to attract".
Secrets of a Long Relationship :
Be Aware of Stressful Times
There are always going to be times that your partner is simply stressed out. He had a rough day at work, his boss yelled at him, and he comes home feeling very cranky. Sure, it isn't your fault, and it's not fair. But part of being a partnership is supporting each other against the world.
So don't take the grumpiness personally, and find ways to diffuse it. If he grumps, don't argue back - because the issue isn't the thing he's grumping about, it's just that he's full of angst. Get some food into you, maybe some wine, settle down to your favorite music or movie or TV show. Let him unwind a bit, and be there. Sometimes that security of love is what really makes the difference.
Now if someone ALWAYS comes home grumpy and this is a normal course of action - to take out the world's woes on you - then it's time for therapy. A couple should always be best friends together against the world. If one person is using the other as an 'easy punching bag', that is never right
There are always going to be times that your partner is simply stressed out. He had a rough day at work, his boss yelled at him, and he comes home feeling very cranky. Sure, it isn't your fault, and it's not fair. But part of being a partnership is supporting each other against the world.
So don't take the grumpiness personally, and find ways to diffuse it. If he grumps, don't argue back - because the issue isn't the thing he's grumping about, it's just that he's full of angst. Get some food into you, maybe some wine, settle down to your favorite music or movie or TV show. Let him unwind a bit, and be there. Sometimes that security of love is what really makes the difference.
Now if someone ALWAYS comes home grumpy and this is a normal course of action - to take out the world's woes on you - then it's time for therapy. A couple should always be best friends together against the world. If one person is using the other as an 'easy punching bag', that is never right
How To Treat Her Special
1. Call her the next day.
2. Always laugh at her jokes.
3. Tell her (truthfully) that you can't wait to see her again
4. Offer her a back rub, without asking for one in return.
5. Call her just to say you were thinking about her.
6. Bring her a teddy bear and chicken soup when she's sick.
7. Write her a poem.
8. Slow dance with her (not only on a dance floor).
9. Bring her flowers for no reason.
10. Send her a (handwritten) letter just to say hello.
11. Always remember your anniversaries and bring her something sweet.
12. Kiss her in the middle of a sentence.
13. Take her for a walk at sunset and stay to look up at the stars.
14. Tell her something about you that no one else knows.
15. Remind her that you still think she's beautiful.
16. Take a bubble bath together.
17. Watch a sappy movie with her.
18. Surprise her with a candle light dinner.
19. Never stop trying to impress her.
20. Tell her you love her
21. Never forget how much she means to you.
2. Always laugh at her jokes.
3. Tell her (truthfully) that you can't wait to see her again
4. Offer her a back rub, without asking for one in return.
5. Call her just to say you were thinking about her.
6. Bring her a teddy bear and chicken soup when she's sick.
7. Write her a poem.
8. Slow dance with her (not only on a dance floor).
9. Bring her flowers for no reason.
10. Send her a (handwritten) letter just to say hello.
11. Always remember your anniversaries and bring her something sweet.
12. Kiss her in the middle of a sentence.
13. Take her for a walk at sunset and stay to look up at the stars.
14. Tell her something about you that no one else knows.
15. Remind her that you still think she's beautiful.
16. Take a bubble bath together.
17. Watch a sappy movie with her.
18. Surprise her with a candle light dinner.
19. Never stop trying to impress her.
20. Tell her you love her
21. Never forget how much she means to you.
How To Write A Love Letter
One of the best ways to convey exactly how you feel about someone is through words. A special love poem written by you or someone else, sentimental quotes or thoughts of love are just a few ways to convey your thoughts to your loved one. When writing a love letter, you can tell your love exactly how you feel with words from the heart!
Writing the perfect love sentiments can be a little difficult for anyone. Due to that fact, we've gathered some love quotes, sentiments, tips and ideas on how to write a love letter to help you. You might also consider sending an e-card that has the perfect sentiments already on it!
Imagine exactly how your love will feel when they see your feelings in a poem, quote, or sentiment. You can even go a little further and post it as a love dedication or in poetic form on the Internet for your love to see!! Below are a few tips to keep in mind when you're writing something...
1. Make it personal.
2. Let the words come from your heart.
3. Include why you love them and how they make your world brighter just by being in it.
4. Express your gratitude for them being in your life.
5. Be affectionate and loving.
6. Let them know your love for them will never fade and you will always be there.
7. If you are sending it by mail or delivering it to them physically, hand write it.
8 If you are sending it electronically, make a web page with the poem on it, have it posted as a love dedication or as a poetry submission.
9. Whatever you write... make sure you are truthful and sincere
Writing the perfect love sentiments can be a little difficult for anyone. Due to that fact, we've gathered some love quotes, sentiments, tips and ideas on how to write a love letter to help you. You might also consider sending an e-card that has the perfect sentiments already on it!
Imagine exactly how your love will feel when they see your feelings in a poem, quote, or sentiment. You can even go a little further and post it as a love dedication or in poetic form on the Internet for your love to see!! Below are a few tips to keep in mind when you're writing something...
1. Make it personal.
2. Let the words come from your heart.
3. Include why you love them and how they make your world brighter just by being in it.
4. Express your gratitude for them being in your life.
5. Be affectionate and loving.
6. Let them know your love for them will never fade and you will always be there.
7. If you are sending it by mail or delivering it to them physically, hand write it.
8 If you are sending it electronically, make a web page with the poem on it, have it posted as a love dedication or as a poetry submission.
9. Whatever you write... make sure you are truthful and sincere
LOVE TIPS FOR A COUPLE
1. Take time to enjoy each others company.
2. Make every effort to become each others best friend.
3. Share your dreams with each other. Don't keep them to yourselves, thinking your partner should know them. I know of very few, if any, people that are mind readers.
4. Forgive each other quickly of their mistakes. NEVER go to bed mad. Regardless of how angry you are, forgive quickly, and never sleep apart.
5. Tell your partner, "Drive safely please. I love you!."
6. Give each other hugs at least twice a day.
7. Take time to meditate and/or pray together.
8. Spend time with other happy couples - it might just rub off on you.
9. Go to a dance instructor and take dance lessons together.
10. Be the first one to say "I'm sorry" after a disagreement.
11. Respect each others need for quiet private time.
12. Take long moon-lit walks on the beach, or through the park, while holding hands.
13. Make your anniversary celebration an all day event. If possible take the day off from work, and celebrate your love all day.
14. Make time from your busy schedules for a second honeymoon or a romantic getaway
2. Make every effort to become each others best friend.
3. Share your dreams with each other. Don't keep them to yourselves, thinking your partner should know them. I know of very few, if any, people that are mind readers.
4. Forgive each other quickly of their mistakes. NEVER go to bed mad. Regardless of how angry you are, forgive quickly, and never sleep apart.
5. Tell your partner, "Drive safely please. I love you!."
6. Give each other hugs at least twice a day.
7. Take time to meditate and/or pray together.
8. Spend time with other happy couples - it might just rub off on you.
9. Go to a dance instructor and take dance lessons together.
10. Be the first one to say "I'm sorry" after a disagreement.
11. Respect each others need for quiet private time.
12. Take long moon-lit walks on the beach, or through the park, while holding hands.
13. Make your anniversary celebration an all day event. If possible take the day off from work, and celebrate your love all day.
14. Make time from your busy schedules for a second honeymoon or a romantic getaway
LOVE TIPS FOR GUYS
1. Make a cassette tape of your and her favorite love songs, then record (in your voice) a special, romantic message at the end!
2. Write her a poem (See our Romantic Poetry for inspiration)
3. Leave little notes around telling her things you love about her.
4. Let her rest her head in your lap.
5. If she's feeling stressed out, give her a massage and help her work out a better way to do things.
6. Let her wear your clothes. It's almost guaranteed she'll look better in one of your button down shirts than you do. (Kind of sexy too!)
7. If she makes dinner, offer to do the dishes.
8. Always be a gentleman--hold the door for her.
9. Give her the same respect you enjoy from her.
10. Make an effort to get to know (and if you can, love) her family.
2. Write her a poem (See our Romantic Poetry for inspiration)
3. Leave little notes around telling her things you love about her.
4. Let her rest her head in your lap.
5. If she's feeling stressed out, give her a massage and help her work out a better way to do things.
6. Let her wear your clothes. It's almost guaranteed she'll look better in one of your button down shirts than you do. (Kind of sexy too!)
7. If she makes dinner, offer to do the dishes.
8. Always be a gentleman--hold the door for her.
9. Give her the same respect you enjoy from her.
10. Make an effort to get to know (and if you can, love) her family.
LOVE TIPS FOR GIRLS
1. Do something he would probably never expect - Send "Him" flowers!
2. Spend intimate time with him. No television, no telephone, no computer, just you and him.
3. Always respect him. Respect is one of the things men treasure the most in relationships.
4. Touch him affectionately: put your hand on the small of his back, run your fingers through his hair, using your fingertips, lightly trace the inside of his forearm.
5. Tell him he is "handsome," "rugged," and "strong", try not to use "cute."
6. Surprise him with a candle-lit dinner.
7. Tell him that you feel safe when you're in his arms.
8. Encourage him in whatever he does--sports, work, whatever.
9. Watch sports with him, even if it isn't your thing.
10. Forgive him when he messes up.
Monday, April 13, 2009
Mystery behind unconditional love solved
What actually drives people to offer unconditional love has been one of the most mysterious emotions since the dawn of humanity. Now, a new study claims to have finally unravelled the mystery.
Scientists have traced unconditional love to human mind — in fact, the emotion, experienced as a desire to care for another person without any thought of reward, emerges from “a complex interplay between brain’s seven separate areas”.
“Unconditional love, extended to others without exception, is considered to be one of the highest expressions of spirituality. However, nothing has been known regarding its neural underpinnings until now,” lead author Mario Beauregard of Montreal University was quoted by the Times as saying.
To reach the conclusion, the scientists recruited subjects with a
proven ability to feel strong unconditional love — low-paid assistants looking after people with learning difficulties.
They asked them to evoke feelings of unconditional love and hold them in their minds while they had a magnetic resonance imaging scan. Of the seen brain areas that became active, three were similar to those of romantic love. The others were different, suggesting a separate kind of love.
The findings showed that some of the areas activated when experiencing unconditional love were also involved in releasing dopamine — a chemical deeply involved in sensing pleasure, with rising levels strongly linked to feelings of reward and even euphoria.
“The rewarding nature of unconditional love facilitates the creation of strong emotional links. Such robust bonds may critically contribute to the survival of the human species,” Beauregard said.
Scientists have traced unconditional love to human mind — in fact, the emotion, experienced as a desire to care for another person without any thought of reward, emerges from “a complex interplay between brain’s seven separate areas”.
“Unconditional love, extended to others without exception, is considered to be one of the highest expressions of spirituality. However, nothing has been known regarding its neural underpinnings until now,” lead author Mario Beauregard of Montreal University was quoted by the Times as saying.
To reach the conclusion, the scientists recruited subjects with a
proven ability to feel strong unconditional love — low-paid assistants looking after people with learning difficulties.
They asked them to evoke feelings of unconditional love and hold them in their minds while they had a magnetic resonance imaging scan. Of the seen brain areas that became active, three were similar to those of romantic love. The others were different, suggesting a separate kind of love.
The findings showed that some of the areas activated when experiencing unconditional love were also involved in releasing dopamine — a chemical deeply involved in sensing pleasure, with rising levels strongly linked to feelings of reward and even euphoria.
“The rewarding nature of unconditional love facilitates the creation of strong emotional links. Such robust bonds may critically contribute to the survival of the human species,” Beauregard said.
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