Learn to adjust

“Nothing is permanent except change.”

Brain is one of those creations of nature, which learn from their surroundings. This is the only reason why a six month old kid looks with wide open eyes to everyone around her. She learns from the behavior of adults around her and these daily classes help her brain to grow. Similarly as two people close-in change is predominant. Both care for each other and both want the other to be happy. So to make him happy she might change some characteristics of herself. In many cases these changes might be drastic while in many they might go unnoticed.

Before I move on I will quote my example over here. I did my schooling from a boys school and after that I was very uncomfortable in class during the first week after I took admission in a (co-ed) engineering institute. And today after four years who would have expected that some day I would be talking ONLY on girls on my own blog? I changed as per the surroundings and my friends welcomed the changes. And those who didn’t weren’t my friends.

So why cannot males accommodate with changes when reason behind those changes is males themselves? Males should try to go back to times when they used to find it difficult to adjust to limits (set unknowingly by her) so as to avoid upsetting her. Similarly it was difficult for her to set limits. She cared for him and she never wanted to upset him, hence she learned to set limits for her just to keep him happy.

He needs to understand that the two of them will become more graceful as time passes as they will start understanding the other more deeply.

If he observes changes in her then instead of blasting her off he should rather reason behind those changes. Then he should explain to her that those changes are for the betterment of their relationship.

Once again I will like to point out that with growing age change is inevitable. Adjust with it and you will find how easily you and your partner feel comfortable with each other.