Don’t Think That You Are Incompetent

“A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears.”

Males are assumed to be the stronger of the two sexes living on planet earth, while in reality this assumption holds true only when it comes to physical strength (although Angelina Jolie might prove this false in some cases). Males won’t agree, but actually the truth is that mentally men aren’t as strong as they are physically. And they try to compensate for this weakness by increasing their physical power and competence.

When in a relationship his deepest fear is that he is incompetent. While he wants to take care of the female he loves, he is also afraid of performing up to the mark. He starts to compensate for this by increasing his power and competence. The hidden problem is that his increased power will succeed in suppressing his fear of being incompetent but only for some short period. Later on when he will find himself in some similar situation again, where he won’t be able to give her what she wants, then his confidence will crumble. He will start running away from her just because he is afraid of hurting her.

If on the other hand males knew what the reality was then they would love to make efforts for her without thinking about the end results. Someone needs to tell them that women care for the efforts, which males make for her and NOT the end results. She would love to see him working hard for her, and somehow, if his hard work fails to give some fruitful results, then too she won’t ever want him to be discouraged.

Failures are a part of life and if you have failed then you must learn from those mistakes and gear up for your next fight. Mostly males are afraid of giving just because he thinks he might have to face failures or disapprovals or corrections. This happens because in childhood his small achievements either went unnoticed or weren’t appreciated. This forced him to develop the feeling that he might fail again even though he is a grown up now.

This is the time when he shouldn’t stop trying because it is his efforts, which count instead of the end result. Please do make a note of this.