3 Steps To Save A Dying Relationship

“Optimism is the madness of insisting that all is well when we are miserable” - Voltaire

Last week I wrote how men can easily shift from being close and caring to being distant and unresponsive, and the article earned me a few emails in my inbox where few anonymous writers talked about their dying relationships. After analyzing those mails and few more examples online I compiled this three-step process to save a dying relationship.

There might be many who may NOT understand these steps, and these might sound complex for them. But those who are keen on saving their relationships MUST follow these easy steps.

Express Your Confirmation

Males need to give it a start. Begin to listen to her and request her to express what she wants and what she thinks is missing in their relationship. Once he knows the reality then it will boost him to work so as to improve their relationship. All you need to do is listen to her and understand the hidden meaning behind her sentences (archives of this blog will help you understand her a lot.)

Once she feels that she is being heard and you are ready to improve your relationship, then she will also cooperate with you. All you had to do is listen to her and express your confirmation that you are eager to improve your relationship.

Confess Your Mistakes

Even the Almighty is ready to forgive you on the condition that you apologize to Him, then why can’t you forgive your partner? Once he confesses that he wasn’t supportive and very firmly makes her realize she wasn’t supportive too, then he will find how the level of understanding improves between the two of them. But always remember something: never ever force her to apologize. She might apologize when forced but she will develop a feeling that you were trying to dominate her. Giving birth to such thinking is like the last nail in the coffin.

Practice

“Try try try till you succeed”

Both the people need to learn from their mistakes and practice hard so that those mistakes aren’t committed again. Practicing hard signifies talking to each other and improving the understanding between each other. Practice being honest to the other person by sharing literally everything with her. Believe in transparency to extreme limits.

To summarize the above three points: one must learn to set limits and respect those limits. Remember that if you have ego in you then she also carries tons of egos. Better listen to her and understand her.