Friendship With Your Ex

“Learn the alchemy true human beings know. The moment you accept what troubles you have been given, the door will open.” — Rumi

ANGST.Fear.Hatred.Resentment. Many a broken relationship has gone through all these phases and more. Yet, in some cases the individuals involved have managed to compartmentalize love and friendship in an almost clinical manner. When your heart is bleeding and your mind is overruling the condition, who do you follow? How do you overlook the intense pain and immense hurt and treat the other as a buddy? Especially since he /she is responsible for the grief you’re experiencing.

In every relationship the pair tends to close in so well that they start understanding each other’s thoughts and they get addicted to the other’s presence. Addicted might be the wrong word for some but generally it is true. When you spend your day and night with one particular person, share everything about you with her, and think about her when she isn’t around then your brain gets addicted to that persons presence and once you come to know that it is all over, you yourself break apart.

Still I think people should try once to sort things out. Start with a new friendship because believe it or not when a relationship breaks it hurts her the most. Guys can cover their pains easily but girls have the knack of relying on her partner and after a breakup she finds it difficult to gather herself (mind you, here I am talking about females who are serious with the relationship.)

After a breakup both of them should try to take a short break from the other. Sit back for a few days and relax. Try and forget whatever happened and after you have cooled off then start trying to create a bond of friendship once again just because of one reason: she is the one who knows you inside out and you are the one who knows her inside out and it might take months before you actually find a replacement. So why not help each other during that time period?

The texture of every relationship is unique and only the two individuals involved in it know best what completes them. It takes ample maturity to be able to look beyond the negativity that’s transpired between the two and the bond as buddies. If it is worth it, why not walk that extra mile?