It is OK to fail.

“Some men have thousands of reasons why they cannot do what they want to when all they need is one reason why they can.” - Willis Whitney

Committing mistakes is human nature and those who don’t make mistakes aren’t human. It is that simple. People tend to get demoralized from their failures and the end result is that they start avoiding those situations (after all this is the easiest way out.) Avoiding a particular situation might give him peace for sometime but some day he will have to face that situation once again and this is the time when he will stand there as a loser. So the best way out to win over your failures is to face them.

Similarly when in any relationship males try their best to make her happy and in the process they tend to commit mistakes which might hurt her (although this is rarely true as she also cares for him.) Such mistakes force him to avoid giving as he develops a feeling that he is incapable of giving. This increases the distance between the two and for no big reason the relationship weakens.

At times she might be stuck with some problem and would expect him to help her out with it. Now due to his male characteristics he will eagerly jump in so as to solve that problem. But if he fails to come up with some solution (and to add to this if she says you fail every time) than such a situation is enough to demoralize him and he start avoiding the other chances of helping her out.

All such situations mentioned above have one root cause; he cares for her and wants her to be happy. If somehow he finds out that he might be the reason behind her sadness then he prefers to withdraw that reason away from her i.e. withdraws him away from her.

Males here must understand that she cares for his efforts, NOT the end results. She is impressed to see that he is eager to bring happiness on her face. He needs to see the reality, he is human and mistakes are a part of his human nature. For her, relationship is more important than work and they care equally for him as he cares for her. She won’t ever be happy if he is demoralized and to confirm many times she would say “you tried, and that is enough for me.”

Males must never let confusions and misunderstandings creep into their relationship just because of some regular mistakes, which he made (and for which she never cared.)

It is OK to make mistakes and it is OK to fail.